Lately, I seem to have been running into a lot of Godspouses.
Truth be told, if there is a deity out there, it seems there’s at least one person claiming to be their Godspouse. A less generous person would look at it and think this was merely a new trend, replacing the older trend of being a priest or priestess. Back a few years ago everyone wanted to be a priest/priestess, now they’re wanting to be Godspouses.
I however, am not going to be like that. Mostly because I’ve run into that dismissive attitude about being Hel’s Gothi, and how “everyone has that phase, poo poo, you just to mature a bit more.” That is a terrible attitude to take that devalues someone’s faith and experience. Most of the people who are dismissive like that, however, expect you to treat their beliefs with utmost respect because they’re “more mature” about such things.
Tangent aside, I do seem to be running into a lot of Godspouses. Loki, of course, tends to get a lot, but I’ve found them for everyone from Poseidon to Lucifer. I don’t think I’ve run into any for Jehova (not a surprise), Hades or Hel, but the last two don’t seem as interested in early affairs.
So why is this? Well, a while back I wrote an article about faith and how it acts as a gateway for the power of the Gods to flow through into the world. If we take this as a working theory, the more faith a person has, the more the power of the Gods can flow through them to have a greater effect on the world.
It used to be that the different Gods and Goddesses had millions of followers all over the world and each religion was generally the sole religion in that area, so there was a lot of “doorways” and nothing to interfere. Godspouses were pretty rare back then, and even priesthood was a rare calling, compared to the rest of the population.
Now though, most Pagan faiths can be counted in the thousands in terms of numbers. I think we recently had a census and Heathenism has maybe about 300,000 members worldwide at best. Most of the other Pagan faiths are doing much better, and we generally live in countries that predominantly Christian, who act as gateways to their God’s power.
So let’s figure your average lay person has a little bit of faith, but they don’t focus on it that much. Priests (religious leaders) typically have more faith and do tend to focus on it a bit more (even if it does seem like a lot of Christian ‘priests’ tend to be fonts of corruption), though most tend to focus on an entire pantheon rather than a single deity. Patronized folks tend to have I’d say about as much faith as a good priest, and they are focused on a single or minimal number of Gods.
A Godspouse, however, focuses on only one deity and to an even greater degree than a Priest or Patronized person would.
The best way to think of it is Lay = Acquaintance, Priest = Friend, Patronized = Best Friend, and Godspouse = Husband/Wife. Think about how much easier your life is when your friend believes in you, or your best friend believes in you…then how much it affects you when your lover/spouse believes in you. You can take on the world, do so much both for yourself and for them.
I think it’s the same with Godspouses. For a while people started out as Pagans, then there was a push of people wanting to be a priest, or saying they were a priest…and they were. The Gods were coming back and they wanted friends, not just acquaintances. Lay people opened the door, but then Priests came about and opened the door wider. The next push was Patrons, where people dedicated themselves to specific Gods of Goddesses, because the foundations had been lade for more power to flow into the world, so now more power did flow in and Patronizing became that gateway. Now we’re seeing the next stage, Godspouses. Or at least, a lot more Godspouses.
As the faith grows, the Gods get more power on earth to affect changes they need to. But they need even more access, thus they need more faith, and were better to get that faith than from a spouse? Now this doesn’t mean they don’t love and care for their spouses, they do. It doesn’t work if they don’t. But think about how much power Loki has now, especially in terms of fandoms and tumblr. While most of my fellow Heathens will froth at the mouth about how Marvel Loki isn’t the real Loki and how the story is different, etc…Loki has some serious power through all his Loki Brides. And they are everywhere, and they spread the message and power of Loki, to the point where in terms of raw psychological and social power…I’d argue that Loki is probably one of the top the most powerful Norse Gods, up there with Odin and Thor.
Enough Godspouses, enough Patroned, and enough Priests opens the gateways for the full power of the Gods to flow through, but even so the Lay people are the foundationed. Those who have a closer connection have a duty to spread the words and faith, so that others might come to believe, and the power of the Gods be restored.
What would you say are the responsibilities of a godspouse? How do they differ from that of a priest?
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Honestly, I’m not sure there’s any set regulations. Priests it’s easy to say what they need to do, but for a Godspouse, that’s pretty much between the God and their Spouse. Loki it seems only want their love, I’ve heard of Odin’s wives who have to do complex rituals fairly often. I have a friend who is Godspouse to Amaterasu (Japan’s Sun Goddess) and he performs a number of duties for her both on earth and in the aether.
Primarily I think it’s to have a lot of faith in them and believe in them, the same way spouses are supposed to do for each other, but beyond that it’s all pretty flexible, I think.
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You’re right. I haven’t noticed this trend up until about 2 months ago when I picked up a book, ‘The Whispers of Wodin,’ anyone can have access to this through a public library or ‘www.Amazon.com.’ However, after I began to digest what I had finished reading I was skeptical. In the book, it’s the story of a woman and her ultimate love for Odinn. She never used the word ‘Godspouse’ or any synonyms, but then she didn’t need to; you simply understood what she was implying in her rites and rituals.
But this now intrigues me, especially after reading your blog. How much communication and faith does it take before someone can properly become a Godspouse?
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That’s a difficult question to answer.
One can talk to a god every day for their entire lives and believe in them as hard as they can, but still not become a godspouse. One the other hand, one can speak with a god once and find themselves on the path of becoming a godspouse.
It really does work like a romantic relationship. You can’t force it, it only comes about if the two beings “click’ if you will. It’s more about the synchronization of energies than about raw faith. Kind of like those shaped blocks and box game we all had as kids.
Once you are a godspouse though, the amount of faith and communication needed does tend to be about the same needed for a functioning marriage, regardless of if it’s with a god or mortal, from what I’ve seen, except that the Gods typically are more willing to work on said marriage than mortals. Mortals have a 50% divorce rate, but godspouses I’ve yet to really hear of a failure rate at all.
On my own personal experience, there are times when I’m halfway or more to being a Godspouse to Hel, who I am patroned under, or Fulltrui with. Is my faith overly strong? Not really, or at least it doesn’t feel that way most of the time. But my nature and hers align very, very well, and I work very well as a conduit for her power and nature here on earth. We…compliment each other, the same way a lot of romantic couples do, and to me that’s the real first step. Faith comes from Trust, from knowing you can count on the other being. That’s why the faith of Patroned/Fulltui and Godspouses is so powerful, I think.
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Reblogged this on Lokkatru and commented:
I wonder what the next step up is, becoming deities ourselves, if thats even possible. And i love the picture. Is that Thor i see with all the women around Him?
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I don’t know if the next step is being deities, because deities don’t worship other gods so they can’t open up the Gateways needed to let divine power flow through. I think Godspouse might well be the top of the spectrum as far as this goes, but do to the amount of power let through I suspect a mass rise in Pagan population numbers to rise. Plus, the amount of power needed to do an apotheosis is astronomical, so while a few cases of people becoming Gods might happen…that the kind of thing that would take a number of gods and thousands of people many, many years to accomplish.
As for the picture…I don’t know if it’s Thor, though it would fit. lol.
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Reblogged this on Gods of Death and Flames and commented:
This is a beautiful representation and understanding of the new “trend”, Godspousing.
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You wrote ” I don’t think I’ve run into any for Jehova (not a surprise)”.
There exists the state of “virgo consecrata” in the Roman Catholic Church. They are married to Jesus in a symbolical way, wear a ring and a veil as their insignia. They are no nuns and not bound to a monastery. They also are no part of the clerical hierarchy. Just wanted to mention this because most people don’t know. 🙂
Btw, I like your blog 😀 😀 😀
Greetings from Germany
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Thanks for the greeting. I..think I have heard of those consecrated virgins, but it had been years and you never hear about them beyond an odd note in a rare, random book. Thanks for mentioning them though. 🙂
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There was one consecrated in the US just a few months ago, actually. http://wane.com/2015/08/15/fort-wayne-woman-marries-god/
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An interesting blog post.
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Nice post, very very nice & i think you are absolutely spot on.
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Well, hello. I follow your blog and I am a Godspouse to both Hades and Loki. ❤
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In regards to Hela having godspouses, well,
I would be rather surprised to see Hela putting anyone forward in some sort of officialized godspouse/godhi capacity. Her orientation towards keeping boundaries, and having things compartmentalized in to their appropriate time and place looks to me to have affected how she approaches her private life. Even the people who discuss working for her who are having intimate relations with her as well, I am thinking of people like Lydia Helasdottir and Dagan Madir here, mention this more personal aspect in passing as if it was something that was just purely incidental to what they do for people on her Ladyship’s behalf. This is consistent enough with how she appears in the lore and gnosis, with her
consorts being figures in the background, if they are even seen at all. Marriage, and all it entails, might not strike her as a good bargain for a woman who insists on complete control over her own estate. And she just might be following her habits in her dealings with mortals.
I have used the term godspouse or spirit marriage to describe my relationship with her but only provisionally.
In my experience she acts like a mortal who has affairs and common law relationships which can ramp up to being the emotional equivalent of marriage, but isn’t keen on getting the piece of paper that gives society’s sanction to it simply because such relationships are nobodies damn business but the parties immediately affected by it.
She always has been as discrete as the grave.
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“A Godspouse, however, focuses on only one deity and to an even greater degree than a Priest or Patronized person would.”
That doesn’t seem accurate to me. As a godspouse to Loki, I spend a lot of time working with my adoptive children, my sister-wives, and the Rokkr family. I’m not just a wife, I’m a mother and sister. In fact, I would not be a godspouse if it were not for Loki wanting me specifically because of my relationship with Jormungandr and Hela. My focus isn’t on doting on just one person. I have a family focus.
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Also, I need to say that there are definitely godspouses for Hela. I’m one of them. Yeah, I know it’s weird, as her father is also my husband. She specifically asked me to after I committed myself to Loki. Loki backed up that request saying that’s what he wanted to. I have a very unusual relationship with Hela. She and I have a lot in common, in terms of having been rejected out of fear. I have a mothering/nurturing relationship with her, where I spend time comforting her and reminding her that she is beautiful. She in turn helps me to integrate my shadow and reveal the things I’m hiding from myself, which yes, can be tough work, but which she ultimately does in a very loving way. A lot of people (a LOT) describe Hela as harsh, and I think perhaps these people need that from her and that is totally valid, but I am still always out of the loop when I hear this. It just does not match up at all with my experience of her. She has a very vulnerable side that she is afraid to show most people, and I think I should say that she would like people to be softer towards her, less fearful in their immediate judgements. Not to say she doesn’t like a bit of respectful fear of her power and sovereignty over death. It’s more that the subconscious rejection of the “monstrous” is very hard on her. As a result of this understanding, she has chosen me as a godwife for her. I support her in the way that both a wife and mother would, which is hard for some people to understand, but it works for me and her.
Don’t ever assume that you know all sides to a deity just because you’ve seen one or a few sides of them for yourself. There’s more to the gods than your own experience of them.
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“A Godspouse, however, focuses on only one deity and to an even greater degree than a Priest or Patronized person would.”
I disagree. Most godspouses don’t focus on one deity. Most of them haveva focus on their spouse, yes. But marriage doesn’t mean your cut off from others; this applies in both the physical and spiritual worlds.
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